This Tuesday Vicky, my 6 year old daughter, found a set of laminated quotes I really like… She picked up one and read it to me:

“What other people think about you is none of your business”


Do you know what that means? I asked. Yes, she said…. and proceed to explain. Watch this 30 second video with her explanation here.

This is a hard lesson to learn…. In our society we tend to take things way too personally. And I am as guilty of this as much as you may be.


So often I hear my clients say:

“I can’t believe he treated me that way”
“How can he be so angry?”
“When he said that, it really hurt my feelings”


I get it. It’s easy to get affected by inconsiderate and harmful things others say. But if you can learn to not take things personally, it’s a sign of high emotional intelligence. Can you look within and ask: How is this an opportunity for ME to heal?

Taking things personally implies that it’s about us. It’s extremely easy to just assign a meaning to something that APPEARS to be directed toward you. But honestly, they don’t even really know you (no matter how close they are to you).


The only person who knows you, is YOU. The rest is the projection of somebody else’s reality, unhealed wounds and life experiences.

The bottom line: it’s not your job to change somebody else’s opinion about you (or the way they feel, act or react).

So, if somebody is angry – that’s their problem. BUT. If it bothers you that they are angry, it’s yours. This is exactly why I’m so passionate about Faster EFT, as it provides a clean and protocol to release our emotional triggers.


Taking full responsibility for how you feel is the biggest gift you can give yourself.

Once you do, give others an opportunity to heal at their own own pace. Send them love, peace and compassion. And let it go.

Watch the video below and tap along.




Send me an email at bochareva@mastertheartofchange.com and let me know what resonates you the most from the video.


Need further help with your love life? I have a special offer this week that might help:




– Do you wish to improve communication with your partner?

– Wonder what is the difference between triggers and red flags?

– Ready to resolve those frustrating conflicts?


Most therapists will teach you active listening and validation techniques, but research proves that those are only effective in 18% cases.

Learning how to validate your partner’s feeling is important, but disagreeing nicer could be just putting a band aid vs treating the root cause.


“Have I actually tried EVERYTHING to save this relationship?” you might be thinking to yourself…

My offer today will help you figure out just that. It’s a one hour Faster EFT session for only $97 (full price $197) to help you get clarity on your next step. 3 spots are available at this price.


Together we’ll go deeper to help you uncover and release the TRUE cause of your relationship conflicts.


In case, you are new to my work, I am an advanced Faster EFT practitioner and Relationships Coach and been working with women for over 6 years now. In January of 2017 I went through a (rather complicated) divorce myself. But only 6 month later I met an incredible man, who proposed a year after our first date. I am honored to call him my husband now.


Can I tell you how liberating it is to be with someone who is conscious, supportive and both emotionally and financially intelligent!!!


Its your time to be in a committed and happy relationship too, so let’s uncomplicate the one you are in right now.

To book just send me an email at bochareva@mastertheartofchange.com and I’ll respond to get us scheduled.

All my love,


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